Book review: You and Me Forever.

4:16 PM

Hello, Monday.

   I don't know about you, but the beginning of our week has brought rain and puzzles, power naps and laundry, cups of coffee and only getting out of my pajamas for a quick Costco run.  Not too shabby, in my book of Mondays.  And speaking of that you need to go ahead and rocket-launch right to the top of your MUST-READ list is this one, by Francis Chan and his wife Lisa.

   Life has been crazy lately with home projects and car shopping and investing time and effort into our real-life relationships, and a good, solid read was JUST what I needed to re-focus and ground me again.  After our pastor mentioned that he had recently read through it with his wife and highly recommended it, we bought it for a little Valentine's date activity and of course, I just now got around to reading it.

   Oh and by the way, this post is in no way, shape, or form a sponsored post, I am just gushing about it because I truly, honestly loved it SO much and wish everyone I know could have their own copy.  It's slightly laughable to me that I even have to make the whole "this isn't sponsored" disclaimer, but in a day and age when I feel like even my most favorite, genuine, authentic blogs are becoming walking billboards for products and promotions, I just wanted to make my intentions clear from the start.

   Anyway, one night, pregnancy insomnia (and WAY too much peach iced tea) had me up for almost the entire night, and I tore right through it.  And my brain is still spinning and swimming and trying to wrap itself around all of the ideas and inspirations and goals found between its pages.

  I cannot speak highly enough about this book.  It would fall into the category of "marriage books" but is like no other marriage book I've ever read or heard of.  Here's an excerpt from the back:

"Marriage is great, but it's not forever.  It's until death do us part.  Then come eternal rewards or regrets, depending on how we spent our lives.

While we cannot allow lesser things to destroy our marriages, we also cannot allow marriage to distract us from greater things.  

A jealous God asks us to pursue Him first and most.  Jesus was right, we have it all backwards.  The way to have a great marriage is by not focusing on marriage. "  --Francis Chan

   And if it sounds radical, than I guess that's because it kind of is.  It has taken the perspective of focusing on ourselves and our marriages and our families and our happiness and turned it all on its head, and blown my entire ideas WIDE OPEN of what my focus in life should really be.

  I think we all want to "improve" our marriages.  We all want really great ones. I mean, who doesn't? I think the highest two compliments I've ever been paid were:

1. "My wife asked me one time who is a couple a really admire and I immediately thought of you and Randy.  I just want a marriage like that."
2. "Every man deserves to have someone look at him the way you look at Randy."

  But after reading this book and thinking more and more about what it means to have a great marriage, I've realized that my goal should not be to have a marriage relationship that makes people say, "Wow, I wish I had a marriage like that" but rather, my goal should be to have a marriage that causes people to say, "Wow, I wish I served a God like theirs."

   This book won't lay out the best 7 ways to speak your spouse's love language, or how to get them to figure out yours.  This book is all about loving Jesus together, and serving on a mission together so whole-heartedly, it can do nothing else but bring you closer and closer and give you a better marriage than ever before.  Not because you have figured out the keys to love and respect, or know your spouse better than any other human on earth, but because you are both SO single-mindedly focused on your life's mission together.

   I LOVE how it addresses the topic of idolatry, and how that can apply even to something as honorable as loving our children and prioritizing family.  Because the truth is....we want to "raise children who love Jesus far more than they love us.  We want them to trust Him more than us, to enjoy Him more than us, to find more security in Him than in us."

   They make their goals of parenting not about becoming best friends with their children, or having a family unit that is tightly-knit and inseparable, but rather, their primary goal is to teach their children about the glory of God.  They make sure that their children know from an early age that their Daddy and Mommy don't control it all----God does.  All authority belongs to Him.

   And so they need to learn respect, not because Daddy and Mommy say so, but because He alone is truth.  "He alone has immortality.  He alone dwells in unapproachable light.  And because of His sovereignty, authority, power and holiness, we live our lives for His glory and not our own.  

   Our kids must be taught and shown that the world does not revolve around them-----it revolves around Jesus.  We live for Him."

  Man I seriously feel like I could just quote this whole book and that would get rather instead of going to the trouble, how about you just hop on over to Amazon and check it out?  And then come back here and leave me a comment telling me about how wide-open your world was blown, just like mine.

How is your Monday going, rainy or otherwise?  And any other good reads lately?  I'd love to hear!

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  1. I adore your pjs!! And this post really blessed me, I really want to check out this book now, even though I'm not a reader. :) Also I really appreciated the post you wrote recently on blogging motives. I really bless you for that and for your honesty and heart to point people upward. I can't say I'm a huge fan of blogging and rarely actually follow or read people's blogs, but I am blessed by your perspective and love how your heart shines through in real ways! Hope this rambling made sense... :)

  2. Thank you so much for your kind words! I am so glad that my previous post encouraged you...that is seriously what this is all about! And I'm so glad this one made you interested in the book. It really is amazing!

  3. Awesome! 👍 And I broke down and ordered it last night on Amazon! 😊 Really excited to read it... thanks for the referral!

  4. I've had this book on my to read list for awhile! It sounds like one of those marriage books actually worth reading! <3

  5. It may be a book on marriage, but I will say that your post did my single heart good too. I think the concept applies to all seasons and stages of life- our focus can't be on the season or stage or this thing or that thing, but on God alone. To not have people say, "Wow I want to be like her" but rather, "Wow I want to serve her God" << so humbling and puts everything into such a weightier kingdom perspective!

    I may also need to pick this one up for my sister-in-law, thanks to your suggestion. ;) If it's written by the Chan's, it's got to be amazing! "Crazy Love" is still one of my go-to favorites!

  6. I am SO glad that it inspired you in your single stage of life! That is what it's all about. Finding encouragement and inspiration despite our current situations...because the truth is, marriage doesn't solve all of our problems! I have been so encouraged by your comments lately.:) Thanks for reading!


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